Making family gatherings special post-pandemic

Making family gatherings special seems more important than ever as we head into a post-pandemic summer. For the past year, we’ve been isolated, socially distanced and to some degree, fearful of larger gatherings.

But, as restrictions lift, we can begin to gather safely. And, many of us relish the opportunity to get together with extended families! How can you make your gathering memorable and fun?

First, recognize that we’re all evolving

As vaccination levels rise and Covid cases decline, we’re beginning to go mask-free and expand circles of contact. But it could take time for us to slip back into pre-pandemic patterns.

We’re all processing the re-entry in our own ways.

Some have grown accustomed to a slower pace

Several people have told me they’re happy with less cluttered schedules. They appreciate time to relax and unwind. And they’re enjoying quality time with a smaller group of people.

Those who’ve been most isolated may experience difficulties transitioning back into social situations. After all, they’ve grown accustomed to having conversations with just a few household or family members.

Making family gatherings special during a post-pandemic summer: Create memorable and fun activities that enable individuals to participate as they wish. — Making family gatherings special during a post-pandemic summer: Give individuals time and space to engage at their own pace, for instance, relaxing in a hammock.

Others have pent-up socializing to do

Others want to rush forward into all of the socializing opportunities to make up for lost time! I can hear the pent-up energy in their voices — and they’re quick to pull out calendars to schedule social gatherings.

And of course, people fall all across the spectrum when it comes to how they want to move forward with socializing.

Tips for managing family gatherings post-pandemic

Plan now for your “re-entry events” to make them less stressful for all involved. Remember to be patient with this transition! People process information and risk differently.

Know your family. First, list your family members and their comfort levels, considering vaccination levels, need for masks, and any special needs.
Poll family members about their comfort levels or special needs. Better to ask than assume, particularly if you’re not certain how they’ll react to situations.
Accept and accommodate differences. Acknowledge that family members will differ on amount of time together, masks, vaccinations, social distancing, etc. If Aunt Martha wants or needs to wear a mask, that’s her choice. Or, if cousin Billy is adamantly opposed to vaccinations — again, personal choice! Encourage people to participate as they are comfortable and provide options for gathering or spending time alone or in smaller groups.
If you’re the organizer or host, set the rules. Set clear expectations up front and clearly communicate them to minimize disagreements.
Plan memorable activities that enable family members to participate comfortably. Plan for a few easy activities that suit your crowd and location — such as boating or pool activities, yard games, board/card games, etc. Even meal prep can be a great time for conversation among those helping out!
Minimize stress for all involved. Keep it simple! Don’t over-schedule or over-plan, allowing plenty of time and space for easy visits and spontaneous activities.
And, remember to take and share photos! With cell phones in most hands, it’s easier than ever to catch candid shots of family members enjoying themselves. We love to share pictures and create memory videos after major events.