As restrictions begin to ease in many locations, I thought I would share my tips for visiting assisted living facilities (ALF). Across the country and the world, the elderly have been perhaps most severely impacted by pandemic restrictions. But as vaccinations roll out and virus cases in many areas decline, visitor protocols will ease.
If you haven’t been allowed to visit your parent or loved one for a while, or have been restricted to public area visits, you know it’s just not the same as pre-Covid visits. I live more than 2,000 miles from my parents and was visiting every 6-10 weeks prior to Covid. I had my first in-person visit in 8 months this week.
Since visits are still limited, it’s helpful to have a plan.
Tips for visiting ALFs
Here are my tips to help you make the most of your visits, especially those in-room.
- Discuss rules and limitations with facility staff prior to your visit. At a minimum, you’ll need to complete a screening and adhere to mask and social distancing guidelines. Make sure you know how long you’re allowed to stay.
- Discuss the visit with your parent or loved one in advance (to the extent that they’re able to communicate). If possible, include them in the planning by asking them if they have specific concerns or activities in mind. If you have specific tasks you want to accomplish, let them know. For instance, I wanted to check for letters or communications I needed to help them address, inventory clothing and supplies, and trim the cats nails, etc.
- Adjust your pace and allow time to simply visit. Most elders in facilities are accustomed to a much slower pace and won’t appreciate feeling rushed. They’ll appreciate your time and company more than anything else! I pulled out a couple of photo albums and we had a great time looking at pictures.
- Bring a special gift (if allowed). I brought my folks an Alaska-themed mask each, as well as books I knew they’d like. Even though I send them packages regularly, the hand-delivered gifts were most appreciated!
- Be sure to check in with facility staff while there and show your appreciation! I’m so grateful for the wonderful staff! From prior visits, I know many of them by name and have spoken with them on the phone when I couldn’t visit. It’s good to touch base while you’re there and let them know they’re valued.
I wish you a wonderful visit
I hope that you’re able to spend time with your loved ones. This year more than any other has been a difficult one for those of us navigating life with aging parents, particularly those in facilities.
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