Comments on: Advocating for your parents as they age https://elainejunge.com/advocating-for-your-parents-as-they-age/ Thu, 02 Sep 2021 23:48:46 +0000 hourly 1 By: Elaine https://elainejunge.com/advocating-for-your-parents-as-they-age/#comment-105 Wed, 08 Jul 2020 19:11:27 +0000 https://elainejunge.com/?p=1349#comment-105 In reply to Martha Brady..

Martha, your story touches my heart in so many ways. Each of us is finding our way, a step at a time, aren’t we?! It sounds like your mom and step-dad were hard-hit by this news and I think think that’s true of so many. Kindness and open communication certainly help, but navigating during crises can be quite challenging! Thanks for sharing your story as I know it will help others!

]]> By: Elaine https://elainejunge.com/advocating-for-your-parents-as-they-age/#comment-104 Wed, 08 Jul 2020 19:08:24 +0000 https://elainejunge.com/?p=1349#comment-104 In reply to Amy Olmstead.

Thanks for the feedback, Amy!

]]> By: Amy Olmstead https://elainejunge.com/advocating-for-your-parents-as-they-age/#comment-103 Sun, 05 Jul 2020 06:04:20 +0000 https://elainejunge.com/?p=1349#comment-103 Great ideas, lines of thought and things to consider. In this generation, as you have mentioned before, we often find ourselves “sandwiched” between care of multiple generations as well as ourself, and you ideas and thought have been very helpful in showing a pathway forward. Thanks!
Amy

]]> By: Martha Brady. https://elainejunge.com/advocating-for-your-parents-as-they-age/#comment-102 Sat, 04 Jul 2020 09:59:04 +0000 https://elainejunge.com/?p=1349#comment-102 Great post Elaine! I experienced a shared part of advocating for my mom’s health issues as she aged. Her husband was very much against the normal medical way of doing things. The agreed to disagree on this point when they married (both had been widowed) but it was easier said than done. She didn’t tell him about her meds ( one of which was an anti-depressant). They are lots of health food and many vitamins. When she found a lump in her breast, he was convinced it was fine. When the biopsy turned out to be malignant, he had a very hard time handling it bc he was convinced she would be fine. It was very difficult to get him to plan for the likelihood that she would have cancer ahead of time so he could have his questions ready. Of course, when the dr. Told them she had it, he was so stunned, he couldn’t think of a thing to say. All the prep work I tried to do with him was useless! All that to say, sometimes they get something in their heads and don’t tell you the full truth. They might be agreeable, just don’t tell all they are thinking. Then, bad news hits and they aren’t prepared for it. Your step about kindness is very important for sure.

]]> By: Elaine https://elainejunge.com/advocating-for-your-parents-as-they-age/#comment-101 Fri, 03 Jul 2020 19:39:22 +0000 https://elainejunge.com/?p=1349#comment-101 In reply to Alice.

Ah, so glad for your input, Alice!

]]> By: Elaine https://elainejunge.com/advocating-for-your-parents-as-they-age/#comment-100 Fri, 03 Jul 2020 19:38:18 +0000 https://elainejunge.com/?p=1349#comment-100 In reply to Anne Habza.

Finances sure can be an early indicator of needing help, Anne! And I so appreciate your advice on keeping siblings in the loop! When everyone’s got the same goals in mind, it sure helps!

]]> By: Anne Habza https://elainejunge.com/advocating-for-your-parents-as-they-age/#comment-99 Fri, 03 Jul 2020 19:20:57 +0000 https://elainejunge.com/?p=1349#comment-99 Thank you for the advice Elaine. The POA is absolutely necessary to help aging parents. My mom had difficulty handling finances and this was the first area where I helped. Another piece of advice is working with siblings to make sure they understand actions being taken even if they do not always agree. Having those difficult discussions helps in the long run!

]]> By: Alice https://elainejunge.com/advocating-for-your-parents-as-they-age/#comment-98 Fri, 03 Jul 2020 17:42:46 +0000 https://elainejunge.com/?p=1349#comment-98 Bingo!

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